What Are Habits and Why We Need Them
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped."
Habits are things you do automatically — without thinking, without effort. You don’t even put up a fight about it.
For example: brushing your teeth, checking your email, looking both ways before crossing the street, or turning your head when someone calls your name. These are habits. Simple. Automatic. Powerful.
Why Habits Are Awesome
When a behavior becomes automatic, there’s no drama. For me, I thrive on routine:
My morning coffee ☕
Planning my day 📝
Meditation and stretching
Bacon and eggs (because priorities, lol)
These habits happen without stress. But I also have areas I’m working on — being less emotional, less controlling, less dramatic. Those require intentional habits. And that’s exactly what we’ll talk about today.
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Why Habits Work for You
Let’s say your goal this year is to stop feeling rushed in the morning, eat healthier, and show up calmer at work.
It won’t happen overnight — and that’s okay. The key is small, consistent actions:
Lay out your clothes the night before
Prep your coffee in advance (or bribe your spouse, I won’t judge 😏)
Set a timer for your morning routine
After just a few days, you’ll notice a shift in how you see yourself. You start to identify as someone who gets up early, handles the day, and accomplishes what needs to get done.
Over time, habits transform your identity. They’re proof you’re becoming the person you want to be — productive, confident, successful.
How to Break Bad Habits and Create New Ones
Ask yourself:
Bad habit to break: hitting snooze 10x, snapping at people, nail-biting
New habit to create: exercise daily, get finances in order, meditate or pray
Here’s how I did it with my daughter and our cat (lol):
She would pull the cat’s tail and laugh when he scratched her — then cry when it hurt. I taught her to:
Say “No!” immediately
Step away
Repeat consistently
Within a week, the behavior stopped. We broke a bad habit and created a new one — two birds, one stone.
The same goes for you. You train your brain like you train a habit:
Identify the behavior you want to stop or start
Pick a reward or treat for following through
Use a physical cue or command to trigger the new behavior
The Most Important Steps to Change Your Life
Push yourself to do what you don’t feel like doing.
Repeat it over and over — habits are built through repetition.
Practice self-compassion — one bad day doesn’t erase progress.
Even when you slip, forgive yourself. Focus on one small action today — that’s how habits create lasting change.
Next Steps:
Here’s your challenge:
Pick one bad habit to break this week
Pick one new habit to create
Track it daily for 7 days in your journal or planner. Share it with me ~ I'd love to hear how you're progressing.
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